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BringingAttentiontoAsianAdopteesPEOPLEAStoriedLifebyLEOSIPRASSeptember20138YellowMagazineWhatisyourbookaboutCorn-fedwithRiceontheSideisamemoir.ItsacollectionofstoriesaboutgrowingupasaKoreanadopteeandchroniclesmydailylifefromalight-heartedandhumorousperspective.Ithinkanyinternationallydomesticallyadoptedchildoradultandadoptiveparentsofinternationallydomesticallyadoptedchildrenwouldndthebookinteresting.Butitsalsoagreatbookfornon-adopteesbecauseitprovidesaninsightintowhatitsliketobeadoptedsotheyhaveagreaterunderstandingandacceptanceinthefuture.WhydidyouwritethisbookandwhydoyoufeelitsimportanttotellyourstoryIwrotethisbooktoprovidesomehopeandinspirationtootheradopteesevenifitwasjustoneperson.Iwantedtoshowthehumorinlifeandinourcircumstancesandthatbeingadopteddoesnthavetodeneyourlifeorwhoyouareunlessyouwantitto.Tomeitwasimportanttowritethisbookbecausesomanyadopteesandadoptiveparentsovertheyearshavetoldmethatnoneofthebookstheyvereadaboutadoptionhavereallyinspiredthemorgavethemaverypositiveoutlookonthesituation.Amajorityofthebooksoutthereareabouttheprocessofadoptionthestatisticsthehistoryorthemanyjourneysoftryingtondbirthparentsandhowmanyofthoseexperiencesdidntturnoutastheadopteehadhoped.Theyareoftendramaticorheartbreakingstories.ThatsnotmystoryWhatsyourmessagetonon-adoptedAsiansProbablyoneofunderstandingandacceptance.Ifnon-adoptedAsiansreadthisbookandgetabetterunderstandingofwhatitsliketogrowupbeingadoptedandhavegreateracceptancetowardsadopteesthatwouldbethecherryontopforme.InterestinglyIveneverhadgreatreactionsorevenmildacceptancefromAsiansafterIvetoldthemImadopted.Ivereallyneverunderstoodwhy.Iknowitsaculturalthingbutiftheycouldseethingsfrommypointofviewperhapstheycouldappreciatemyjourneymystrugglesmyvictoriesandbemoreunderstanding.WhatwasitlikegrowingupinanareaastheonlyAsianItwasabsolutelynormalforme.WhyBecauseIwascompletelyacceptedinmycommunity.Nooneevertreatedmeanydifferentlygrowingup.notmyfamilymyfriendsoranyoneinthecommunitywhichisrarecomparedtothetimesweliveinnow.AndIthinkbeingacceptedinanycommunitythatyouareinisafundamentalbuildingblockofself-esteemoptimismandsuccessinanyoneslife.Completeandutteracceptance.Itssomethingsomeofusstrugglealifetimewithdependingonourcircumstancesbutsomethingwecanallrelateto.Sobeingtheonlyminoritypersongrowingupinmanysituationswascompletelynormalforme.Iwritealotaboutthisinthebook.WhatdoesyourfamilythinkofCorn-fedwithRiceontheSideMyparentsloveitTheyareveryproudofmeandaresoexcitedtohaveanauthorinthefamilyItssomethingIthinkmymomalwayswantedtodoandsomethingmydadtriedtodoseveralyearsago.TherestofmyimmediatefamilyisverysupportiveandIthinkwillbeshockedwhentheyareactuallyholdingMYbookintheirhandsMyextendedfamilyisalsoextremelyexcitedandproudofme.TheycouldntbemoresupportiveandthatstheenvironmentIgrewupin.IamveryluckytohavealloftheirsupportDidyoualwayswanttobeawriterNoIneverthoughtIdbeawriteroranauthor.InitiallyIdidntstartoffthinkingIwouldwriteabook.IjustwantedtoseehowmanystoriesIcouldwritedown.OnceIhadmorestoriesthanIthoughtIwouldIthoughtOkthiscouldactuallybeabook.Itsoneofthoselifethingstakinganopportunitywhenyouhaveiteventhoughyoudidntseekitout.IthinkImjustatapointinmylifenotmid-lifecrisisyetwhereIwanttomakeadifferenceevenifitsjustforonepersontosayHeyyourejustlikeme.Ifyourestrugglingwithwhoyouareitsokaywealldo.Yourenotalone.Togivesomeonehopeisagiftandtoinspiresomeonetobegreaterdogreaterthingsintheirownlivesisahumblingprivilege.DoyouthinkyoumissedoutonyourAsianculturebybeingadoptedbyaCaucasianfamilyNonotreally.MyparentswerealwayssupportiveofmeaskingquestionsandhelpingmendtheanswerswhenIdidhavequestions.Ithinkasadopteesweallhaveourowntimingonwhenweseekoutourculturesmorefullyeithertoanswermorepersonalquestionsforourselvesorjusttolearnmorebasicthingsaboutourculture.IthinkbecauseIgrewupinsuchanormalenvironmentthatcompletelyacceptedmeIneverfeltlikeIwasmissingsomethingandIthinkthatsablessingDidyourfamilytrytobringinelementsofyourcultureasyouweregrowingupWeveallbeenwatchingHoustonsTheLittleCoupleonTLCandtheyhavejustadoptedaboyfromChinasotheyaretryingtolearnmoreabouttheculture.AwwwIwatchthatshowtooandlovethattheyhaveadoptedAsformyfamilytheydidnthavemuchofanopportunitytoexposemetomycultureonlybecausewelivedonadairyfarminnortheasternIowainaverysmallfarmingcommunity.Therewerentmanybigcitiesaroundororganizationsthatsupportedadopteesbackthen.Itsdenitelydifferentnowbutbackthentheresourceswereverylimited.HoweverIhaveapenpalof30yearswhoisadoptedfromthesameadoptionagencyasmeandshegrewuparoundMinneapolis.GrowingupinamuchbiggercitythanIshewasexposedtomoreofourculture.Shewouldalwayssendmethingsrelatedtoourculturecardslittlegiftsetc.andstilldoestoday.ShealsousedtogotoKoreancampswithotheradoptees.IalwayscomparehowsheandIgrewupandourdifferentenvironments.ThatswhyIsaythatalladopteesaredifferentandallofoursituationsaredifferentbecauseweallgrowupindifferentenvironmentsandareexposedtomanydifferentthings.Noadopteeoradoptionisthesame.HaveyoubeenbacktoSouthKoreaYesIvebeenbacktwicetoSeoulSouthKoreawhereIwasbornbothtimesforwork.IhaveawholechapterinthebookdedicatedtomyrsttripbacktoSeoul.ItsnotexactlyhowIwantedtogobackforthersttimewithoutanyfamilyorfriendstosupportmebutitwasdenitelyagreatexperienceformeandveryeducational.Istillhopetovisitagainwithmyfamilysomeday.MymomandIareplanningtogobackthroughmyadoptionagencysyearlytourwithotheradultadoptees.Ialsowantmypenpalof30yearswhoImetthroughouradoptionagencysbi-monthlymagazinetogobackwithus.IthinkitllbeamuchmoreemotionaltripformeandIknowformypenpalthanmytwopreviousvisits.ImhopingwecanmakethattripnextyearandwhoknowsafterthatImayhaveanotherbooktowriteIthinkbeingacceptedinanycommunitythatyouareinisafundamentalbuildingblockofself-esteemoptimismandsuccessinanyoneslife.AuthorKimFennemanCorn-fedwithRiceontheSideispubclishedbyFairwayPressandiscurrentlyavailableatkimfenneman.comFormoreinformationandtoseeupcomingbooksigningeventsvisitkimfenneman.comKimFennemanwasborninSeoulSouthKoreabutgrewuponadairyfarminnortheasternIowaafterbeingadoptedasaninfant.InherdebutmemoirCorn-fedwithRiceontheSidesheprovidesalight-heartedandsometimessarcasticviewofdailylifeasaKoreanadoptee.ShemovedtothesuburbsofDallasTexasasayoungchildandhasspentmostofherlifethere.